Finding Love Online Table of Contents
1. Creating the Perfect Profile
2. Red Flags: Who to Avoid
3. Know What You’re After
4. Keep Him Interested
Did you know that one in three couples now find love online? In this fast-paced, social media-dependent world, we rely on the Internet for everything – from keeping in touch with old friends and networking for our career to ordering take-out and finding a soul mate. These days we have the luxury of cyber-vetting men before we get even meet them. We can scrutinize Facebook photos, Google them for personal info and check out their tweets to make sure their communication style suits our own. If you’re ready to get back on the dating scene and have decided to try your luck with online dating, then you’re in the right place. While signing up for a site like Match.com or eHarmony may seem easy, creating the perfect profile can actually be quite the challenge. If you’re looking to find your soul mate online, here are some key tips for making the most of your profile and spotting a great potential partner.
Chapter 1 Creating the Perfect Profile
Every day, millions of singles click through dating sites and apps, flipping through photos and profiles of potential matches. She’s got nice legs! She’s a model! She speaks French! The list of what persuades men to send a message is never ending. However, when it comes to catching a man’s eye, the trick is having the right profile. From writing the perfect bio to selecting the right photo, there’s so much more to online dating than meets the eye. Here are a few tips for how to make your profile stand out the right way.
1. Ask a friend for help.
Writing about yourself can be tough, which is why getting a friend’s input is helpful. Aside from being able to give you their input on your qualities, it’ll also prevent your modesty from misrepresenting you. Besides, they say that close friends know you better than you know yourself!
2. Avoid clichés.
As dreamy as it may sound to say you enjoy “long walks on the beach” or “sipping wine by the fire” leave those kinds of interests to conversation. Instead, opt for more unique details. Perhaps you enjoy zip lining or browsing local markets on the weekend. Specific interests are great conversation starters and will help your profile stand out.
3. List sociable hobbies.
When someone visits your profile they’re looking to see if you’re the kind of person they could imagine dating. So rather than saying you’re a bookworm or an avid gamer, list activities that others can imagine enjoying with you. You don’t want to give off the impression that you’re a hermit or hard to hangout with, so play up your love for things like the outdoors, sports, concerts, etc.
4. Choose action shots for your pictures.
One of the most important bits of your profile is your photo. Instead of posting the same duck face selfies as everyone else, choose some action shots. Whether it’s a photo of you bungee jumping or playing the guitar, these photos tell people more about you and are great conversation starters. Similarly, opt for a warm smile over a sexy pout. Men love confidence, and looking straight in the camera will show them that you aren’t shy. Make sure that all pictures have been taken within the last six months and include at least one headshot and one full body shot. Putting up pictures that represent what you really look like means you won’t be accused of misrepresenting yourself on a date. Awkward.
5. Be positive.
Men love women who are positive and outgoing. To avoid coming across as negative or pessimistic leave words like “don’t,” “never” and “dislike” out of your profile. Instead, share the things you do enjoy doing. Your profile is basically your dating resume, and just as you wouldn’t want potential employers to get a negative sense of you, the same should go for potential suitors.
6. Be honest.
As tempting as it may be to say you’re a 6’1, fit supermodel or a gifted horseback rider, be honest. Lying won’t get you anywhere. Once your date finds out the truth, they’ll be far less impressed than if you’d been honest about yourself to begin with.
7. Be specific.
To give a full picture of who you are, use specific examples. For instance, if you love travelling, mention your favorite place and why. If you’re a movie buff, list your Top 10. The point is to bring you to life and to give suitors a more in-depth idea of who you are.
8. Update your profile on a regular basis.
Renewing your profile picture and information is important. For instance, if you haven’t been a teacher for three years then don’t say you are; if your profile picture is a decade old, replace it.
9. Check your grammar.
Many people find poor grammar a turn off. Think about it from your perspective. When you cross a profile that’s filled with spelling and grammar errors, it’s a sure sign that the user is unintelligent, immature, or extremely lazy. It’s true that not everyone is an all-star in English, but users really don’t have an excuse not to use a spell checker.
10. Keep it short and sweet.
You wouldn’t introduce yourself to someone in a bar by telling them your entire life story, so don’t do it on your profile. Unlike women, men don’t like reading long profiles, so be brief and keep it interesting.
11. Have fun with it.
Most people want to find someone who can make them laugh and that’s fun to be around, so show people you have a sense of humor. Laughter is a great icebreaker. Just choose your jokes wisely – no toilet humor, racial jokes or religious gags.
12. Create a ‘curiosity gap’.
Ever wondered why sites like Upworthy and Buzzfeed are so popular? It’s because they’re masters of the “curiosity gap.” They offer just enough information in their headlines to peak interest, which is exactly what you should do when meeting someone in person for the first time. This doesn’t mean your profile should start out with “9 Out of 10 eHarmony Users Are Wrong About This Mind-Blowing Fact” or “You’ll Never Believe Who Every Man Wants to Date”, but it does mean describing yourself well. Paint a picture: men are visual creatures.